How to Be a Wife Magnet — The Warrior Gets the Girl (Part 1)

The Warrior Gets the Girl (1) 

This poster hangs on my bedroom wall. It was given to me 25 years ago by my friend, Constance, who worked on the movie. Truth be told, it sat curled inside a cardboard tube in my bedroom closet for more than two decades.

The Last of the Mohicans poster. Nathaniel running for Cora. Your sex life — and everything else — hinges on this one issue.

We moved quite a bit during that stretch of time. Packing the house was practically an annual event. The contents of my closet — clothes, shoes, and a cardboard tube — weren’t put inside the moving truck, but thrown into the back of my SUV on moving day. Invariably, I’d pull out the poster, carefully unfurl it and complain, “Damn, I hate that stupid photo in the center. The one of Nathaniel holding Cora. I mean, Madeleine Stowe is hot and all, but it doesn’t belong. Ruins the intensity. I wish Constance had given me the other one, the one without the lame insert.”

So, I’d roll it back up and slide it back into its protective tube. I never threw it away, of course, because I’m such a huge fan of the movie. Few sagas offer such a stunning and visceral portrayal of courage and honor and what it means to be a warrior.

Fast-forward to 2015. I’m a divorced dad. My son and I are doing some spring cleaning. He’s downstairs dusting, and I’m attacking the bedroom closet. My inner monologue:

“Hmmm, it’s been awhile since we last moved. Maybe my Last of the The Mohicans poster has magically morphed into the way cooler Daniel-Day-Lewis-only version. I’ll take a look and see.” It hadn’t changed, of course, but I had. This time as I gazed upon the familiar image, a phrase popped into my head:

< The warrior gets the girl >


Not the wimp.

Not the whiner.

Not the egotist.

Not the workaholic.

Not the one who demands, “You should love me because I’m your husband!”

But the warrior. The one who fights for her heart.

The warrior gets the girl.

I never saw it. It was hidden from me all those years while I huffed and puffed on the hamster wheel.

Look again at the larger iconic image of Daniel Day-Lewis. It's plucked from a scene called “Massacre.” That fierce intensity is written across his face for a reason. Nathaniel is running full bore through the melee — crushing skulls and slitting throats — in a desperate attempt to find Cora before she’s harmed. This isn’t his “tough guy” look, it’s his “man possessed” look. He’s running to find her, running to save and rescue her.

Little did I know ... the poster in my closet told a story that would become the synopsis of a book I was soon about to write. A book that teaches husbands how to fight for the hearts of their wives.

This time I hung it on my wall.




My suggestion to men everywhere:

Download the image. No joke, do it right now. Make it your laptop’s wallpaper, your cell phone’s home screen. Or spend $16.48 and buy the poster on Amazon. Hang it in your office, or your bedroom. And the next time you’re in a funk and feel like giving up on your marriage — “This is too hard. She’s impossible. What about my needs?!” — just stare at it. Stare at his face. His clenched fist. The knife. The Pennsylvania flintlock slung across his back. Stare at it until your eyes narrow and your jaw tightens. Until the imaginary tomahawk in your hand is being swung through the air and plunged into the necks of your enemies.

Until you’re ready to fight for her heart.

Oh, and remember to notice the smaller image in the center. Look at that one, too. Then take a deep breath and say it with steel:

“The warrior gets the girl.”

It’s a vivid reminder that, yes, your needs will get met. Quite handsomely, I might add. “To the victor belong the spoils.”

Finally, to my dear friend, Constance: Thank you! This is the waaaaay cooler poster.

I stare at mine every morning and snarl.


Questions for a strong + sexy marriage

  • Most of us are diligent to protect our families and ensure their physical safety. We lock up at night. We install alarm systems. We build fences. You might even keep a tomahawk under your bed. All well and good. But how would your wife answer this question: “Does your husband protect and fight for your heart?
  • Make no mistake, this is the one issue everything else hinges upon — your marriage, your family, your sex life, your fulfillment, your sense of worth as a man, your success, your reward, your legacy — everything!
  • Get outside your comfort zone. Go ahead and ask her: “On a scale of 1-to-10, how well do I protect and fight for your heart?”
  • (Just make sure you're well-versed in Jack Canfield's three-pronged approach — Chapters 8 + 9 of Wife Magnet. Otherwise, disaster may ensue. If you don't own the book yet, you can download both chapters for free below.)

Quotes worth pondering

  • “Stand true to your calling to be a man. Real women will always be relieved and grateful when men are willing to be men.” (Elisabeth Elliot)
  • “His attentive treatment of her had nothing to do with the presumption that she was weak, and everything to do with the conviction that she was valuable.” (Angela N. Blount, Once Upon a Road Trip)
  • “How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” (Oscar Wilde)

​​​​For greater oomph

  • Read Chapters 8 + 9. You can download them for free below.
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Jeff Borkoski. Speaker. Coach. Author of Amazon best-selling book Wife Magnet. Help for sexless and sex-starved marriages. Coaching for men and couples.

About the Author


Jeff is a passionate speaker and coach known for his obsession with helping men build strong and sexy marriages. He's a full-time dad, outdoor enthusiast, and raving fan of all things kombucha. When he's not oversharing on Facebook, you can find him in the mountains, the ocean, or Whole Foods.


Marriage Crisis Coaching

​​​​"He's stepped into the core of a woman." (ELIZABETH NEARY)


"It's like he was in my head the entire time!" (SHANNON RAYMOND)


"Guys, if you want to understand your wife, this is it!" (ANNY RUCH)


To the wife who feels alone in her marriage:

This isn't OK. You're turning into stone. You've had to stop caring when he looks at you, smiles at you, or says something kind. You've had to accept the reality of being invisible so it won't hurt so much.


How much longer can you do this?!


I have great news — Filing for divorce and fracturing your family isn't the only other option. I have a proven strategy to transform your current marriage into one that's sexy, fun, close, and intimate!


Click the button below to learn more.


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Have Jeff's latest content delivered straight to your inbox. Bringing sexy back has never been easier.


Contact Jeff

Book Jeff to speak at your next event, ask a question, or just say Hi. He personally responds to each request. 

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The Warrior Gets the Girl (1)

This poster hangs on my bedroom wall. It was given to me 25 years ago by my friend, Constance, who worked on the movie. Truth be told, it sat curled inside a cardboard tube in my bedroom closet for more than two decades.

We moved quite a bit during that stretch of time. Packing the house was practically an annual event. The contents of my closet — clothes, shoes, and a cardboard tube — weren’t put inside the moving truck, but thrown into the back of my SUV on moving day. Invariably, I’d pull out the poster, carefully unfurl it and complain, “Damn, I hate that stupid photo in the center. The one of Nathaniel holding Cora. I mean, Madeleine Stowe is hot and all, but it doesn’t belong. Ruins the intensity. I wish Constance had given me the other one, the one without the lame insert.”


So, I’d roll it back up and slide it back into its protective tube. I never threw it away, of course, because I’m such a huge fan of the movie. Few sagas offer such a stunning and visceral portrayal of courage and honor and what it means to be a warrior.

Fast-forward to 2015. I’m a divorced dad. My son and I are doing some spring cleaning. He’s downstairs dusting, and I’m attacking the bedroom closet. My inner monologue:

“Hmmm, it’s been awhile since we last moved. Maybe my Last of the The Mohicans poster has magically morphed into the way cooler Daniel-Day-Lewis-only version. I’ll take a look and see.” It hadn’t changed, of course, but I had. This time as I gazed upon the familiar image, a phrase popped into my head:

< The warrior gets the girl >

Not the wimp.

Not the whiner.

Not the egotist.

Not the workaholic.

Not the one who demands, “You should love me because I’m your husband!”

But the warrior. The one who fights for her heart.

The warrior gets the girl.

I never saw it. It was hidden from me all those years while I huffed and puffed on the hamster wheel.

Look again at the larger iconic image of Daniel Day-Lewis. It's plucked from a scene called “Massacre.” That fierce intensity is written across his face for a reason. Nathaniel is running full bore through the melee — crushing skulls and slitting throats — in a desperate attempt to find Cora before she’s harmed. This isn’t his “tough guy” look, it’s his “man possessed” look. He’s running to find her, running to save and rescue her.

Little did I know ... the poster in my closet told a story that would become the synopsis of a book I was soon about to write. A book that teaches husbands how to fight for the hearts of their wives.

This time I hung it on my wall.


My suggestion to men everywhere:

Download the image. No joke, do it right now. Make it your laptop’s wallpaper, your cell phone’s home screen. Or spend $16.48 and buy the poster on Amazon. Hang it in your office, or your bedroom. And the next time you’re in a funk and feel like giving up on your marriage — “This is too hard. She’s impossible. What about my needs?!” — just stare at it. Stare at his face. His clenched fist. The knife. The Pennsylvania flintlock slung across his back. Stare at it until your eyes narrow and your jaw tightens. Until the imaginary tomahawk in your hand is being swung through the air and plunged into the necks of your enemies.

Until you’re ready to fight for her heart.

Oh, and remember to notice the smaller image in the center. Look at that one, too. Then take a deep breath and say it with steel:

“The warrior gets the girl.”

It’s a vivid reminder that, yes, your needs will get met. Quite handsomely, I might add. “To the victor belong the spoils.”

Finally, to my dear friend, Constance: Thank you! This is the waaaaay cooler poster.

I stare at mine every morning and snarl.


Questions for a strong + sexy marriage

  • Most of us are diligent to protect our families and ensure their physical safety. We lock up at night. We install alarm systems. We build fences. You might even keep a tomahawk under your bed. All well and good. But how would your wife answer this question: “Does your husband protect and fight for your heart?”
  • Make no mistake, this is the one issue everything else hinges upon — your marriage, your family, your sex life, your fulfillment, your sense of worth as a man, your success, your reward, your legacy — everything!
  • Get outside your comfort zone. Go ahead and ask her: “On a scale of 1-to-10, how well do I protect and fight for your heart?”
  • (Just make sure you're well-versed in Jack Canfield's three-pronged approach — found in Chapters 8 + 9 of Wife Magnet. Otherwise, disaster may ensue. If you don't own the book yet, you can download both chapters for free below.)

Quotes worth pondering

  • “Stand true to your calling to be a man. Real women will always be relieved and grateful when men are willing to be men.” (Elisabeth Elliot)
  • “His attentive treatment of her had nothing to do with the presumption that she was weak, and everything to do with the conviction that she was valuable.” (Angela N. Blount, Once Upon a Road Trip)
  • “How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” (Oscar Wilde)

For greater oomph

  • Read Chapters 8 + 9. You can download them for free below.

Get 2 free chapters
of Wife Magnet

Move your marriage from cold-and-distant to close-and-intimate. I'll teach you how to win her heart back!

Jeff Borkoski. Speaker. Coach. Author of Amazon best-selling book Wife Magnet. Help for sexless and sex-starved marriages. Coaching for men and couples.

About the Author


Jeff is a passionate speaker and coach known for his obsession with helping men build strong and sexy marriages. He's a full-time dad, outdoor enthusiast, and raving fan of all things kombucha. When he's not oversharing on Facebook, you can find him in the mountains, the ocean, or Whole Foods.


Marriage Crisis Coaching

"He's stepped into the core of a woman." (ELIZABETH NEARY)


"It's like he was in my head the entire time!" (SHANNON RAYMOND)


"Guys, if you want to understand your wife, this is it!" (ANNY RUCH)


To the wife who feels alone in her marriage:

This isn't OK. You're turning into stone. You've had to stop caring when he looks at you, smiles at you, or says something kind. You've had to accept the reality of being invisible so it won't hurt so much.


How much longer can you do this?!


I have great news — Filing for divorce and fracturing your family isn't the only other option. I have a proven strategy to transform your current marriage into one that's sexy, fun, close, and intimate!


Click the button below to learn more.


Subscribe to blog

Have Jeff's latest content delivered straight to your inbox. Bringing sexy back has never been easier.


Contact Jeff

Book Jeff to speak at your next event, ask a question, or just say Hi. He personally responds to each request. 

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